Ross Shiveley

My approach to therapy is rooted in transformation, or what happens when we allow ourselves to be fully present. What shifts when we sit with the full range of human emotion: joy, sorrow, hope, shame, fear?

Pain—the kind that makes every moment feel fleeting and distances us from ourselves, our partners, and our future—often traps us in familiar patterns, holding us back from the intimacy, clarity, and radical love we seek. Instead of resisting pain, I believe in meeting it at the door, inviting it in, and tending to it with care. Pain doesn’t need to be banished; it needs to be seen. Healing isn’t meant to erase the past but to equip you with tools to move through it with intention and connection.

Informed by a depth-oriented, trauma-informed lens, I integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS), parts work, and present-focused, body-aware practices that help clients reconnect with their nervous systems and sense of self. I work especially well with neurodivergent individuals (including those who identify as AuDHD), deep processors, and those seeking to reinvest in intimacy after relational or sexual disconnection.

My style is collaborative and grounded in curiosity, mindfulness, and compassion. We will begin exactly where you are without judgment or expectation. Whether you're exploring your gender or sexuality, healing from religious trauma, or navigating the complexity of parenting, intimate relationships, or emotional regulation, our work will honor your inner wisdom and lived experience.

I specialize in working with individuals and all forms of relationships—monogamous, polyamorous, queer, platonic, and blended. I support clients navigating sex therapy, relationship challenges, intimacy concerns, and trauma recovery, with a focus on helping people examine and reshape the narratives they carry about themselves, their bodies, and their desires.

Our time together is not about forcing change or undoing the past, but about creating the internal conditions for growth, clarity, and choice. By meeting yourself with truth and compassion, you create the possibility for deeper connection, groundedness, and agency.

We may spend our whole lives searching for answers only to realize the guide we needed was within us all along..

Pronouns: They/He

Rate: $150/50-min session. *Sliding Scale options available

Contact: ross@aligningintimacy.com